Marriage is certainly not an easy ordeal yet it brings many joys and lessons for life. Its two unique individuals with different personalities, preferences, expectations and upbringing staying together for better or good through the loving commitment to be kind to one another. Its the ultimate test of goodness, yet imperfect we humans are, we often fail to reach perfect goodness. That being said, I am sure that many of my actions and even persona irk Tomomi a lot and often times, she did make comments and other times, just bore in patience. But, with an extra baby to care for, often times, mummies almost want to give up taking care of the grown up baby thats us, daddies. Thats when we reassure mummies that we love them very much and we increase our love bank deposits. Love is always like a bank where we deposit loving thoughts and memories and often times, careless mistakes and hurtful words would drain that love bank that has been deposited. Its hard to change the unique person we are to be a new man quickly but we can do our best to deposit lots of romantic and thoughtful gestures to still maintain a positive love bank account held by mummy. I am probably not doing enough, but I try to invest in buying flowers for the home, putting post it notes on the fridge to tell Tomomi that she is the best thing in my life. And since she is home always, these little things are magnified and remembered for a longer time and hopefully would increase the love bank to a higher percentage than usual. Good investment, guys! Do not miss the opportunity. For some of you daddies, it may just be a timeframe of 1-3 months before mummies start working again and leave the home- so you have to work harder in that period!
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One of the biggest sacrifice for a married woman is child-bearing. In the process, the woman goes through tremendous physical and emotional change. The after-effects of child-bearing & child-birth can be quite traumatic for 'mommy'.
A common scenario include, looking into the mirror in the morning and wonder what a "monster" is looking back, and thinking back on those singlehood days where 'mommy' once wore size M blouse, now have to be satisfied with L or even XL. Every important body part that used to be well groomed has now 'grown' out of proportion.
The first 'crash' that happens to 'mommy' is depression. many things can make 'mommy' depressed. Therefore, its 'daddys' job to assure 'mommy' that she is still that beautiful girl he used to date. 'Daddy' needs to assure 'mommy' that she is still valuable.
So, Philip, you are on the right trek with flowers & post-it notes. Perhaps a call from the office once in a while is also good. To find out how 'mommy' is coping, how baby is doing. Remember, lots & lots of assurance is needed.
Thats a good viewpoint to bear in mind about mummies. Thanks Eugene. Other readers/bloggers who would like to share the mummy viewpoint, please do so generously.
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