Tip 31: The Sxx word but please wait 6 weeks for Sex

Reflecting and research before writing these blog entries are doing a lot of good for me and wished I was in this direction earlier. Not so much material make mention of sex after childbirth but I find this , this and this helpful. Actually, me and Tomomi did engage in sex before 6 weeks and on retrospection, I think letting the mummy rest for 1 month-6 weeks before sex is much advisable. As Tomomi did not have any tearing, stitches, episiotomy, surgery or any ventouse extraction, it was fine but still a little more rest would do mummy more good. For cases where a traumatic delivery happened, 6 weeks is necessary if not much longer on the doctor's advise. Sometimes, mummy may think its ok, but its up to daddy to be patient and advise mummy to rest a little longer at least for 1 month.

I am thankful for Tomomi's wisdom in seeking a capable midwife (with a medical certificate) who would give her good advise and let Tomomi make many decisions in her childbirth. As there were no serious complications, the midwife was patient with assisting Tomomi to have a natural delivery without surgery, stitches or to suck the baby's head out. Hence, Tomomi was feeling well after childbirth with only slight pain. But when we engaged in intercourse close to 1 month, Tomomi did feel slight discomfort for 1-2 days but all was well later. So, I realized its always best to wait and the daddy may even need to assure mummy that he is patient and still in love with mummy in the waiting. :) But I find this advise very helpful "Many women find sex after having stitches to be difficult and painful. Once you have your baby, books talk about how to care for the baby, with very little about you, especially your sex life. The thing to remember is it is not normal to be in pain or to be unable to have sex. If this has happened or does happen to you, seek help and don't take 'no' for an answer." And daddy need to be supportive of mummy all the way to ensure mummy is well.