Tip 53: Weekends are not for resting/sleeping

You must be as alarmed to read this tip as I was when I heard it from a good friend of mine. Stay with me for a little while. :) My friend is now a daddy to a 6 year old boy and he said that daddies with babies up till age 3 need to be resting less during the weekends and instead make themselves useful around the house. Okay, now does that make a little more sense? Probably some who are not daddies will find this either too common sense a tip to be mentioned or wonder why it is necessary to put this as a rule since daddies need not sacrifice their weekends and can do as they please. Though, if this is never put as a rule, daddy will find it convenient to indulge in their past time forgetting mummy or rest his tired body and forget that only the weekends, baby and mummy get to have daddy full-time. For a number of reasons, the first 3 years at least for the first baby can make or break mummy and the relationship between daddy and mummy. Daddy sometimes rationalizes that he also works very hard at his job and if he can do it, why can't mummy do the same and should still smile and be understanding of daddy. Well, some mummies who stay at home all the time with the baby, or have to juggle between work and household chores will either give up their relationship with daddy or give up feeling proud of their mummy role. Its probably hard to envision but many mummies face an intense pressure and burden. My friend actually shared that his wife actually went through tremendous pressure that gave her a depression for a period of time. I would not want that to happen to my wife for sure.

Many daddies will have to admit that they are pretty much still a kid deep inside them and feel happy to have their wives look after their needs. Some would even have a slip of their tongue to voice their appreciation to their wives as good mothers to them and risk having mummies hurt. Daddies may think that if they hold a good paying job, they may be more important than mummy, while mummy on the other hand feels she has sacrificed so much for the family leaving her freedom, preferences and friends behind to put baby and family first. With all these thoughts and feelings in mind, the weekend seems like the test of how much both love each other. Do one spend the weekend cooking for the other, ironing each other's clothes, spending more time with the baby? Its surely a temptation to sleep till noon and then have lunch with mummy since for the past 5 days, daddy worked till late with a difficult boss and a tight deadline. But, mummy feels the same that daddy should instead give mummy the rest and freedom she needs over a difficult baby and a tight multitasking home schedule. We can give mummy a break to go shopping or take her out for a good meal, but if we do not lend a hand in household chores and spend more time with baby at home, then it seems like we are good for nothing at home. Make ourselves useful ... make our bodies work harder. It will be fine. Daddies are as tough as mummies.