Tip 50: Patience, love and faith to ride any storms

In my last tip, I spoke of global warming but this tip relates to storms at home. Yeap, its not easy to live together as a new family. No matter how loving a couple looks in public, there are many differences felt between each other (even the most loving and patient of couples) and add a child or a few of them and you have more differences in expectations, preferences and personalities to deal with. Fatigue, pride as we grow wiser and richer, and the lack of friends can make things worse. Some resort to increasing loud exchanges that fuel more and more hatred for each other. Some resort to keeping quiet at every meal and avoid confrontation and stiffle their emotions leaving the heart an easy victim of temptations. A comment left at tip 46 mentioned that the love for his child has taken away the love he has for his wife. I am sure mummies feel that even more as they are more emotionally connected to the child. Sometimes little acts of love does not stop the raging conflict that's overwhelming both couples. Being patient alone and agreeing to disagree and keeping quiet and loving superficially may not be the solution either. There is a need to be honest early on in the relationship that you want to make a difference and you can love, that you are genuinely committed to try to meet the "impossible" expectations of your spouse and you have faith in your spouse that she can do it as well to be patient and accept you and together with God's help both of you will understand the true meaning of love.

Sounds easy on words, but trust me, I do not have it easy at home either. Both mummy and daddy needs to know that its already tough to love another selflessly when both are different and unique individuals, plus the fatique and stress of managing home with an additional member and the possibility of not showing affections to our spouse as we concentrate on the baby. Hence, the need for patience. And the need to make more efforts to love selflessly. And even if we do not have results, we need the faith to believe love never fails. Same goes with our relationship with God. As we mature and know more about loving God, God often times want to instill patience in us through different trials and yet when we do not see God and do not receive clear directions from Him, we have faith that He loves us. We need to have that faith that our spouse loves us and to let that thought be grounded in our hearts and minds so we love more and more selflessly each day. Patience, love and faith. Wow, it seems if we get it right we can change this world for the better. In the mean time, lets get it right, believe in love and press on to love as we will then be good daddies, take hold of life and make a difference. If you must seek after God, to help you. Let me leave the bible verse of 1 Corinthians 13:4-8: Love is patient, love is kind, love does not brag and is not arrogant, love's ways are ever fair, it does not seek its own, is not easily provoked, does not keep track of wrong, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.