During dating, men usually look forward to holding hands. They do it to express their love and it excites them when their cherished girlfriend responds positively. Hand holding is the stage before you kiss and men get excited that they are slowly moving up the intimacy ladder and getting accepted by their girlfriend. But why after marriage, the hand holding gets less? Married couples will have to admit that even if they still hold hands, the frequency has reduced, more so with the arrival of children. Let us take an example of a gardener watering his plants. In the beginning, there is so much excitement seeing the seed grow with a fragile plant sprouting out. There is so much yearning to nurture the plant to see its first flower. The plant receives her daily water and regular fertiliser without fail. But, the excitement slows after getting used to the first flower blooming. Not really, as an experienced gardener will tell you that with much patience, the excitement and joy grows when you see more flowers bloom at each spring. Marriage and family is not made up of only romantic feelings such as the gardening experience does not comprise only to see the first bloom, but it is comprised of much commitment, initiative, duty, sacrifice and perseverance to see each beautiful day together. And the more we hold hands, the more we remind ourselves of that. Besides, holding hands make the girl melt more than the guy usually ...
This blog tip title relates to the natural rhythm of relationships that we usually hold hands less after marriage. Having to carry my baby to lunch, I simply have no hands to hold another hand. Even Tomomi would ask me to concentrate on carrying Haruka well when Haruka was much younger. There is a danger I may just listen to Tomomi and soon, the hand holding gets rare. But, each of us have to remind ourselves that as much as we need to care for the baby, we need to also nurture our relationship. So in our 10 minute walk every weekend to the long row of restaurants near our home (maybe it takes 15 minutes with the baby), I remind myself to be holding hands and enjoying the walk. One hand on Haruka and another to Tomomi. Its amazing that without a car, there are more opportunities to enjoy a walk together. Its a magical touch as many daddies do not realize what magic it does to mummy, especially done regularly after marriage. So free up just 1 of your hands daddies, and see the good returns it reaps to your relationship, and better dinners to come. :)
Love to hear my readers share. Daddies and mummies have you noticed if the hand holding has gottten less after marriage? Daddies, any tips on hand holding and noticed any good results after hand holding? Mummies, do daddies have to take the initiative all the time? How about mummy doing her bit to reach for daddies' hand?
2 comments :
I would usually hold my hubby's elbow/arm if he is unable to hold hands because his hands is occupied. We still hold hands after marriage because my hubby likes it a lot so I don't think it's only a woman thing.
Yes, the elbow/arm is always an option as the hands is not always free. Not when you are with kids too, with more shopping, more carrying of baby... I think I have no hands to hold an arm/elbow either, so it depends on my wife to hold my arm/elbow instead if my hands are full.
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