Tip 58: Just do your best R.I.C.H.

I have been tremendously busy and have been lately taking big strides to improve myself by taking up quite impossible challenges. I feel fulfilled that I am learning lots of new things and making big improvements in acquiring new skillsets and even new qualities and methods of working and dealing with people. Though, I also felt too stressed out, challenged and worry that these challenges comes with too huge risk of failing. But, I knew that if I fail, I can try again some place else and would have already acquired those valuable lessons everyone has been telling me previously that I should have improved on. Such is life. Change is hard. Of course, it is fine if one is content in not seeking after ambitions that may look distant and difficult, but if one wants to try to work hard to make improvements to be closer to the ambitions, then daddy just needs to take the risk and undergo stress to learn how to change. Its important though that daddy contains and manages that stress well, be resourceful to look for alternative modes of action should failure be encountered and not make mummy worry too much. Also mummy needs to be supportive that there could be more challenges and some uncertainty if daddy fails. I have realised that many of life's challenges and doing our best to improve ourselves, sums up well in this acronymn R.I.C.H. that I coined up. R.I.C.H = Research, Intercede, Consult, Honestly. Just doing this well and know that you have done your best is enough.

We are all imperfect human beings and have many weaknesses that we can try to overcome and reduce gaps in skillsets and knowledge that we can acquire to improve ourselves. But, the path to improvement may not be as easy as in the school days when one just reads from books, memorizes or understands well the lessons taught. Many tangible knowledge can be learnt by just reading, but many other knowledge that involves soft skills or technical skills requires lots of practice and lots of doing in order to see improvement in conduct and performance. One way to first approach the need to change is to research the area well by self study and checking out resources available in bookshops, libraries and the Internet. The world has changed that you can read a book or use the computer and learn from others be it wanting to improve your speech, your dressing, how you write documents or do a certain kind of lab experiment. There are tonnes of resources and one only needs to manage time well to search the suitable resources that can assist in quick knowledge transfer. As a Christian, I believe in prayer and faith in God guiding us through our life journey if we seek Him. Intercession by oneself and better if accompanied by many others who care for us can move the Hand of God to steer us through our path and sharpen our senses to do what is right. Surely, God do not usually intervene miraculously in everyone's life and surely God wants us to learn many lessons the hard way through trials and hardship, but we can be conscious of our intentions and be sincere to God that we want to change for the better to be a better person for oneself and for others. This noble ambition will be honored by God if it is moving towards a path of less selfishness. I realized God can hold our hand and sharpen our 5 senses to learn better or be more careful in making certain decisions. Next, it is a blessing to be able to consult from people who are kind, mature and intelligent and who have higher skills, experience and knowledge in matters we wish to improve on. Meeting such people are a blessing that we should be thankful for and cherish always. Of course, it will then be our turn to seek to be these kind of people to someone else even in simple matters that we are good at which we ought to share to others. Last but not least, as a daddy, I am realizing the importance of sustainability and the need to be honest. In all dealings, maintain a high level of integrity to keep a good reputation with the people we deal with. Usually we think we can do something dishonest when no one is looking, but the more we do it, the more it becomes a bad habit that eats into our character and attitude. Its important to change the mindset that all dealings need to be carried out honestly for success to follow one day.